People “cleanse” out of sheer principle, but there’s actually way much more to it than that. People are transfixed by the idea that something “can’t” or “won’t” ever change, and is something I acknowledge in one of my prior posts called,
“Stubborn by Process” means we are bound to processes, and what I mean by that is that we need to get detestations out of our systems, whether they be injustices committed onto us by other people, or injustices committed onto ourselves.
Herein lies the dilemma:
Should we hold someone accountable for the actions they committed on us? Or do we sympathetically take into account what they did was their sole choice at that given point in time? [¹Repulsivity]
Judge others only as harsh as you would judge yourself, [unless you judge others as mercilessly as you would yourself.]
Merciless Masochists vs. the Sympathetic Sadists
You won’t believe it until you feel it for yourself, but everything has its reason, and everything has its cause. Not everyone is capable of factually or objectively identifying those reasons effortlessly, but who dare care enough to consider the true motivators of the people they cohabit the planet with? I wish I could have someone explain to me how one is expected to understand another individual when that one individual cannot even understand themselves first?
People are not ready to ask questions, unabatedly and explicitly articulate themselves, and furthermore, face dysphagic truths out of sheer concern of public scrutiny. It’s easy to write off our actions as “I did that because they did that to me”. It’s easy to say we were stubborn for justifiable reasons, and it’s even easier to handle other people’s stubbornness by giving up, walking away, and latching onto an intense feeling of disgust, contempt, and thinking the other person is out of their mind. They are stubborn for reasons as well, but perhaps the reason it’s called “stubborn” is because they themselves do not understand why they are stubborn either. The fact of the matter is no one knows why they do what they do, but everyone will readily defend their actions in an instant. Am I the only one that understands why I do what I do? Am I the only one interested in finding out the deepest truths of our lives? Is it I that only knows that the Meaning of Life is to Survive?
I’ve said it once, and I’ve said it twice. I’ll say it again:
In order to change anything you must first change yourself, because
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
You fight irrationality with reason, not apathy.
You give people reasons to forgive each other, not regret each other.
The world has reason. Not madness.
¹repulsivity: the product of environmental stressors